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I had an active (free) teaching site a few years back. I had designed it myself, and although it was working quite well, it was not hack-proof. It was compromised a few times, and the "comments" section was, too.
On the feedback section, only registered members were allowed to post. Or so I thought! It's all fixed now, and I'm using Wordpress with its security features, which are quite good.
Anyway, I thought I'd share some of the "fan mail" I got from people who were able to post anonymously.
Here goes :
"You should not be presenting yourself as an experienced fiddle player, because clearly you are not. You use mostly separate bows, the music has no flow. So get this ridiculous hobby of yours off the internet and leave the teaching to those who know how. What a disaster if all the young Irish players grew up and played like you. All you have the right to teach is correct posture."
"Jim Dorans is a poser, a wannabe famous UK dole recipient who has about as much skill on fiddle as a spastic trying to play tennis. Do yourself a favour and buy a decent Suzuki book and you'll do much better. Don't cripple yourself attempting the UK welfare bow-shuffle."
"You are a hopeless meglomaniac and a terrible musician. You are a fraud, a charlatan and you should be ashamed of yourself."
"You are one of the worst examples of an over-exhuberant amateur I have ever come across. And what's with that stupid blue half-a-violin abortion you are trying to play." [*On some clips, I used a Yamaha SV-200 electric violin*]
"You are disgusting."
Well, just before I pulled the old site down, I got one last message, which read :
Thank you so much for providing an excellent teaching resource in you site. I have learned so much from you, and your teaching methods are excellent. Your technique is astounding, so florid and powerful, yet totally controlled and able to emphasis the bare structure of the tunes, also at slower speeds so it is easy to follow.
I have never been able to find this level of tuition anywhere else."
So it's not all bad
I have seen similar comments on other sites. It turns my stomach. I believe it is a sign of the times and is evidence of evil, unloving people. They must be very unhappy and need prayer.
The most beautiful things in life cannot be touched or seen. They must be felt with the heart. ~Helen Keller~
Unless the ignoramus is identified as some famous somebody, its a nobody giving anonymous opinion, obviously uneducated. Its too easy to do a word drive by on someones site since there is no reprocussion. If you put it out there, have a thick enough skin and enough self confidence to know that haters are there to hate! I love what youve posted so far so, Im a fan!
"Please play some wrong notes, so that we know that you are human" - said to Jascha Heifetz.
Although not music related, I ran a game server for several years. people signed up and basically played games based on a server load order and game play time. It was a great thing. I had some real life server maintenance behind me at the time, no platform specialist mind you, but real world technician installation, upkeep and server maintenance. I had a small php site I would host a small forum on. I can not tell you the amount of hatred that populated the forums, not from the normal users. How easy it was to hack it, to completely blow the server, crash the drives, on and on. The damage done and the time it took to rebuild. I was at the end. Then you get the kid or younger person thanking you for taking the hours of rebuilding and resetting and getting it back running again, or the person you know from long enough chat who was handicapped and the internet is their only link to the world, or the older man who load his family in a car wreck and now just games to pass the time and tell you he is indebted for your diligence.
It only takes 1 good note in the bunch of crap to keep your efforts moving.
WF , if you've only helped 1 person with your efforts, then you have done a great job and you are in fact a teacher. If you have thousands, or even just a single one, cherish it. You made a difference in that person's life and in that, they may positively affect the world because of it.
"I find your lack of Fiddle, disturbing" - Darth Vader
Sometimes you just do things in hope that one person will be bettered by it. When I give away violins I never know what becomes of them and I like it that way. I just hope that one will have changed someones life. So Jim just know that it is possible that you made a virtuoso.
Keep up all your good work.
Some people just seem to enjoy making strangers sad. It's something I will never understand. Sometimes when I find negative things about something online that I think could be fixed, I generally point it out in a nice, constructive way, making sure to point out that no personal offence is meant and also reporting on the good things about whatever it is. If I can't do that in a useful way, I just leave it. Why make people feel useless just to show off? And why not taking a step back from your high horse and think, 'hey, maybe this doesn't work for me, but it might for others?' and 'hey, could I do a better job myself?'?
Sadly, with this global, anonymous community that the internet has opened up, these things are unavoidable. There will always be mean/sad/angry people who take pleasure in putting others down, and it's easy to do so behind the anonymity of an IP address. Anyone who puts things out there must be prepared for the occasional verbal beating.
I'm glad you don't let the haters get you down, Jim. You're a great fiddler and a fun person and I'm sure many of your viewers felt the same way as that last reviewer!
~ Once you've ruled out the impossible, whatever remains, however improbable, must be true. ~
Thanks to all you guys for your kind words and support
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