Well, there's more than one way to look at it.  And bear in mind that we can't hear his tone or see his manner when you were there, of course.

I can see where he might well hand you a 1k$ bow if you ask about pernambuco and CF.  A salesperson will blow more sales by underestimating the customer than by overestimating. 

He may not have invited you to actually try it on an instrument because it probably wasn't rosined.  At least at my local shop, most of the bows aren't, since they don't want to try and guess what sort of rosin someone might like, and it wouldn't be real easy to clean it back off once it is put on. 

But I rather doubt my local shop even has a $1000 bow on the premises.  LOL  If they did and the owner handed it to me, I'd look it over politely and hand it back and say something like "A bit too rich for my blood, what do you have around $100 or so?"  Same for the $5000 violin. 

Sometimes they do that (and really are inviting you to try it) to make sure you know they do carry items of that quality just in case you might be in the market for very very nice stuff.  Or may be in the future.  It is salesmanship to show a potential customer the most expensive items they might possibly be interested in first rather than showing them the low ticket items. 

Honestly, I would be more likely to be insulted if I asked about a 500$ or so violin and they pushed me towards a 50$ one instead. LOL  Now that could lose them a sale.

At the shop I usually go to, I've known the owner for years, and over the years he has had me try some rather expensive instruments.  Sometime he wants an opinion on them.  Sometimes there's some particular point of quality he wants to see if I'll notice.  Sometimes it seems to be just for the heck of it, because hey.. It's a music store and I may not be in the market today, but I might be next week.  Not like I haven't bought more than a few things there over the years.   

I have a bit of a hard time understanding what was disrespectful about handing you a $1000 bow and then when you mentioned trying bows out, offered you a $5000 dollar violin to try them on.  I'd usually consider that quite a bit of respect.  But like I said, I wasn't there and didn't hear tone of voice or see facial expression.