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Should I try to learn the violin or give up without even trying?
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Huey142
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I love the violin, but when I tell my family or my friends, they just ask me to give up because they think I'll give up learning halfway so it's better to not waste time and money. Although one of my friend, who love the violin too, supported me but now I'm confused. Should I just give up because majority says so or still at least try to learn it so I won't feel any regrets later?dazed

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And I don't have a violin yet so should I still fantasize on being a violinist one day or just stop and go back to reality?

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Thank you so much. That was really what i needed to hear. Now, I no longer have any more doubts. Thanks for the support, it really means a lot to me after what they said. Thank you!!!smile

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Don't listen to the nay-sayers! If you love the violin and want to learn, do everything in your power to get an instrument and start. You don't learn to play the violin to please others, but to please yourself. Spend more time with your supportive friend, play together and be happy with your choice of instrument.

It seems to me that if you are dreaming of becoming a violinist before you even have an instrument, there's a burning desire to learn somewhere deep inside you that needs to be fulfilled. Maybe your family and friends will understand after you've been playing awhile.

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Hi, Huey,

When I was in the middle school and I wanted to learn piano very much, my family objected it strongly -- $$$$$. I only told a couple of friends about my wish. One of them actually helped me during the process of looking for a teacher. I came from a very small town where most of the people don't know any thing about piano. Back then no one had computer and it would be impossible to learn from internet. It took me at least a year to find a teacher, in fact, there was a piano school that just opened up. I did not have a piano so I only get to practice before or after my piano lessons. I still remembered I used pencil to draw the keyboard on my desk at school and practice on it; thank goodness, my buddy who sat next to me did not report on me. 

My family could not afford my piano tuition, so I had to come up with some money to pay for it -- I helped my parents to plant vegetables and helped sell them, and eventually I had my own garden -- I plant, I harvest them, put them in bundles, and my mother would take them to the market for me to be sold. With the money I paid for my piano tuition, Chinese zither lessons (this was much cheaper because my teacher was a friend of my sister who taught me almost for free), as well as my senior high school tuition (I went to Chinese school then, so there's tuition, unlike public schools which are free). I walked several miles back and forth to school to save busfare for my tuitions,  I also tried to cut down "expenses" by not taking piano lessons during school breaks (which is bad since I didn't even have a piano to practice with). With all I did, I managed to take piano lessons for about four years (counting those months I missed).  Ocassionally, I had to postpone my regular school tuition and felt shame about it.

I don't know how common violin is in your area and how easy/difficult it is if you have to find a violin teacher. However, you could definitely learn to play from the fiddlerman. Do a search on youtube and I'm sure there are many other people giving free violin lessons on line. Many of us -- members of fiddlerman.com are learning without a teacher. If you do want to learn, you probably will have to own a violin so you could practice.

 

Huey, if where there's a will, there's way.

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CatMcCall said:

Don't listen to the nay-sayers! If you love the violin and want to learn, do everything in your power to get an instrument and start. You don't learn to play the violin to please others, but to please yourself. Spend more time with your supportive friend, play together and be happy with your choice of instrument.

It seems to me that if you are dreaming of becoming a violinist before you even have an instrument, there's a burning desire to learn somewhere deep inside you that needs to be fulfilled. Maybe your family and friends will understand after you've been playing awhile.

Thank you so much for the encouragement. Now, I'll try my best to save money and buy a violin even though I might end up neglecting it halfway I still want to try and if it didn't work out then I know I can give up on it. So now I've decided to just go for it. Thanks a lot!! You really helped me in this decision, I'm really thankful. 🙂

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pky said:

Hi, Huey,

When I was in the middle school and I wanted to learn piano very much, my family objected it strongly -- $$$$$. I only told a couple of friends about my wish. One of them actually helped me during the process of looking for a teacher. I came from a very small town where most of the people don't know any thing about piano. Back then no one had computer and it would be impossible to learn from internet. It took me at least a year to find a teacher, in fact, there was a piano school that just opened up. I did not have a piano so I only get to practice before or after my piano lessons. I still remembered I used pencil to draw the keyboard on my desk at school and practice on it; thank goodness, my buddy who sat next to me did not report on me. 

My family could not afford my piano tuition, so I had to come up with some money to pay for it -- I helped my parents to plant vegetables and helped sell them, and eventually I had my own garden -- I plant, I harvest them, put them in bundles, and my mother would take them to the market for me to be sold. With the money I paid for my piano tuition, Chinese zither lessons (this was much cheaper because my teacher was a friend of my sister who taught me almost for free), as well as my senior high school tuition (I went to Chinese school then, so there's tuition, unlike public schools which are free). I walked several miles back and forth to school to save busfare for my tuitions,  I also tried to cut down "expenses" by not taking piano lessons during school breaks (which is bad since I didn't even have a piano to practice with). With all I did, I managed to take piano lessons for about four years (counting those months I missed).  Ocassionally, I had to postpone my regular school tuition and felt shame about it.

I don't know how common violin is in your area and how easy/difficult it is if you have to find a violin teacher. However, you could definitely learn to play from the fiddlerman. Do a search on youtube and I'm sure there are many other people giving free violin lessons on line. Many of us -- members of fiddlerman.com are learning without a teacher. If you do want to learn, you probably will have to own a violin so you could practice.

 

Huey, if where there's a will, there's way.

Pky, Thank you so much I know I kept saying thank you but i really mean it and there's no other words I can use. You gave me hope and faith that I can actually succeed even though there's money issues. Your life story led me to think that I can do this as long as I try hard enough. Thank you!!! 😀

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If this is truly a passion you have. You should follow your dream. If you don't you will always wonder, where would I be if I had followed my dream. I suggest you follow what is in your heart, if you loose interest latter than you at least know you tried it. If you never start how will you know? Follow your dream not only in playing the violin, but in everything you do. Never be a quitter, you are better than that.

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Well said, Paul!

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Huey ... old Chinese proverb:

'If you think you can, or you think you can't ... you're probably right.'

I don't know if I can or not, but I'm having fun finding out.

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If you think you can, or you think you can't, you're probably right.

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Thanks everyone!! I plan to learn the violin now, no matter what it takes.smile

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