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I am bummed...I just got turned down for private lessons....not because I am a beginner but because I am an adult.
Sniff sniff.....
It is the second time actually...the first one I did not really want....this one I wanted badly...or at least I thought I did.
Sniff sniff
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I'm sorry CPO. Did you try the university? Maybe a starving student who would be willing to get you started?
I've learned so much from my mistakes that I've decided to make some more.
That is insane. The problem is an insecure teacher who has to be better than his or her students and can only be that way if they are younger. Here we are in our late 50s learning twinkle twinkle little star and mary had a little lamb and being proud of learning it. It's the instructor's loss.
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Unbelievable! That would absolutely challenge me to get better than that instructor. Welcome, I'm a newbee too. Your not alone.
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If you were in Dallas I could recommend two instructors that love adults. I dont believe you are so thats not much help.
Might want to think about FMs skype lessons.
No matter where you go, there you are!
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Thanks everyone... You are the best....
I am off to practice on Violetta....(my violins name)
Happy fiddling....
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Sorry to hear that. The only time to turn down a student is when one is too busy. I actually don't turn anyone down, I just schedule the lessons later when I have more time. Now a days my schedule differs so much from day to day. Winters are so much busier. Also, my rates are over most peoples here 🙁
Anyway, I love teaching all ages. No difference for me. It is even more intriguing that an adult decides to learn completely on their own without being pushed by any parents 
"The richest person is not the one who has the most,
but the one who needs the least."
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All in all I was just a bit offended....it really is anyone's choice on who they teach....especially if they are really good. It just caught me off guard. I waited a few weeks to get the courage to send the email....and I got a three word reply. No adult beginners. And a first name signature....it was a little slap...that's all.
Bouncing back....I had a good practice session.
Cherrio and moving on...thanks again for the support..this sight is amazing...thanks to all and to Fiddlerman.
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Being the optimist I am, I might look at it as better to just be told up front and not spend time and money on someone who you find out later is not fond of teaching adults or is not a very good instructor.
There are those who can teach and there are those who can play, but it is hard to find someone who can do both well.
You have to try find someone who understands learning styles. Different folks learn in different ways and a good teacher will know and see that and work to figure out how each of their student learns best. My guess is this that this instructor has not figured that out and can not just dictate to someone what to do and both they and their adult beginner students became frustrated and now they just don't want to do that anymore, instead of working to figure out a better way.
I think FM has and is good at it and that is why folks like it here.
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Crazy talk! I can't imagine anything worse than trying to teach children. If I had any skills worth teaching it would be adults all the way.
Also that reply is extremely unprofessional! No wonder they only teach children, they probably got slapped silly by the first adult they tried to teach 
The early bird catches the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese!
My first teacher was not anxious for adult students. She had a great resume herself but was primarily set up for teaching KinderMuzik. And I'm sure that other teachers have their niche as well.
I can imagine that some adult students with previous musical experience might resist being coached particularly if the teacher is younger.
Could it be that a teacher might have had bad experiences with some adults (color that "you bet").
I wonder what teachers have to say ?
I don't see any reason to not to teach an adult beginner 
. Only one i can imagine - maybe they don't think that an adult one takes it seriously and can reach the "High level" to satisfy teacher's ambitions about their teaching talent? That only means that this teacher is not a good one...In any case it's wrong! Please, don't be upset about it, because i guess You don't really want to be teached by person like that... Keep searching and You definitely will find a teacher that will be much better!
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