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Peace Lily
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June 15, 2022 - 9:18 am
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So, this is a bit off-topic. Many of the forum members know that I recently, mid-March, lost my son to a 9 year battle with cancer. Please, I am not after any comments about being sorry to hear it, not what this is about. I was keeping it off the forum, but wanted to share this. This is about sharing an item, even when it is difficult to do so. 

At the end of the service, my older daughter and I each scooped up a Peace Lily to take home. We both wanted something that would live on in his memory. There were two beautiful Peace Lilies. I, also, scooped the "Son" banner from the spray of flowers we had for him and tucked it into my plant.

My son was very close to one of his aunts. This aunt lost her younger daughter about 5 or 6 years ago. My son and her daughter were close. I had to repot my Peace Lily. I tore a section away and potted that into a small pot for my sister-in-law and then put my section into a smaller pot. I did this a few weeks ago. I was quite hesitant. What if both sections died as a result? I searched and found out that that is how it is done when it gets large. This was not huge, but large enough to split and still have 2 good sized plants.

It was an extremely hard thing for me to do. What if I end out without a Peace Lily?  But, I thought about it. My son helped his grandfather on his farm every summer, every day, when I decided he was old enough. His aunt lived next door to his grandfather and grandmother. My son spent a lot of time with his aunt, between chores, or rainy spells during the day and bugged the heck out of her, according to my son. I knew better. I knew she loved it. She had no idea what he meant when I told her he often mentioned that when we talked during the last year. He didn't bug her, according to her. He did the same joking around he did here. My sister-in-law loved it as much as I did. He often spoke to me of her. 

I needed to give her a part of my son to keep. I asked her daughter if she thought her mom would like it and she said she would love it. Not everyone does houseplants. I didn't want to do it and find that she really did not want to deal with a houseplant. I did not want to put her on the spot by mentionjng it and her feeling obligated to say she would love it. After being given the go ahead by her daughter, I asked her. She was thrilled. I did tell her that if one section did not survie, I would have to keep the one that survived. She understood. I could always split the aurvivor after it grew more. Still, it was hard. But, I knew my son would want his aunt to have a part of the plant.

Both plants are doing well, so I contacted my sister-in-law and told her she could come pick it up any day from Thursday on. Now she will have a piece of my son's Peace Lily, also. 

This was sooooo hard to do. But, even so, I know it was the right thing to do. My son would love it and she will now have part of her nephew, who had always held a special place in her heart (and she in his) and in her children's hearts.

So, something may seem really hard to do at first. But, if it is something that you know will make at least one person happy, maybe, just maybe, it will fill your heart, and other's hearts, also.



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June 15, 2022 - 1:03 pm
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June 15, 2022 - 1:04 pm
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